Thursday, August 30, 2012
Relationship changing over time I-You
My relationship with my co worker has changed over the past month. I just recently got hired at Olive Garden and I am an out going person so i made friends with everyone there or most of them. I seen this guy and I thought he was cute but I didn't tell him because I am shy when it comes to relationships and I have only been in one so relationships are whatever to me. ;P The co workers at Olive Garden always hangs out at Applebees after work so I got invited and the guy I thought was cute goes too so of course I would want to go. I also enjoy hanging out with friends. I would just admire from him from afar. We have an "I- you" relationship. At work before he asked for my number we would just talk about work related things. He asked for my number after a week of hanging out at Applebees and getting to know each other, he asked for my number. He texted me the next day and we just started asking random questions about each other's lives. We started texting everyday and we didn't avoid any topics because we are both blunt people so we don't really care. Now we just talk about going on dates and different types of movies that are out. After getting to know each other for a longer period of time, we just talked about anything and ask each other about past relationships since we are in the talking stage.
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Wow, it is amazing how over time, fate can bring you to close to someone you never really imagine yourself with. That's the trick with "I-You" relationships, there's like an imaginary barrier and you have to let time or spontaneity to really let a connection build. Now that you guys are in that "talking stage", do you see a flower growing in that foundation (figure of speech)? In other words, will you eventually allow a "I-Thou" communication? It is a rare commodity to come by. Trust is really essential first before establishing anything. I believe trust is what separates "I-You" and "I-Thou" communication. But I admire the baby steps that you guys are taking, it will build a very healthy and open relationship. :) Good luck.
ReplyDeleteJust wanted to comment about Tina's comment before the comment on the post:
ReplyDeleteI think that trust is perhaps only one of the many things you need to consider before choosing to be with someone. I think and strongly believe that the person you choose as a partner in life, even with friendships, should be someone that you can talk openly with and be able to relieve physical stress as well as stress in the air. What I mean by that is if you are stressed about a school assignment they can try to offer help by looking on the internet for you or as simple as just sitting next to you and wait for you to finish. And, relieve stress and tension in the air by creating a fun atmosphere. The second most important quality I look for in a male is ability to make me smile and laugh, pretty much a clown characteristic.
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It's funny how you guys work at Olive Garden but go to Applebee's to hang out. You might want to be careful with that relationship you have right now. It seems like to me he isn't going to ask you out anytime soon... Although I don't know any of the specifics, he is probing you about you as a whole and asking to go on dates and such but not popping the question. Be careful and cautious not to fall in too deep! But, if you both are as blunt and straight-foward as you say, expect him to ask you out sometime soon since he seems very comfortable to initiate conversation and ask for your number and such.
I think it's really interesting how we can look back on the progression of our relationship with an individual and see how fate of circumstance plays a heavy role in the developing of our relationships. You both happened to get invited to a hangout and then, over the course of a set period of time, are hanging out on your own and talking very frequently. It's wonderful that your relationship progressed slowly and you are very open about yourselves. Honesty builds a strong foundation for any type of relationship because it requires trust and openness. Those qualities are very desirable in relationships. I'm glad things are progressing well!
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