Equity

I found that maintaining equity in family relationships was the most interesting to me this week. A lot of families do not have equality among all of the family members. Equity should be maintained in ways that everyone in the family gets treated equally. Usually the decision maker is either one or both of the parents. In my family my dad use to be the decision maker for a little but once we got to our teen age we did whatever. (not bad or illegal things but we just planned and decided on our own) My family is really really stubborn and we all sometimes make mistakes but some decisions but who doesn't. The social exchange theory was quite interesting. Wood  says "as long as your rewards outweigh your costs, the net outcome of the relationship is positive, so you are satisfied".Having a happy family is very important and its healthy in life. 

marriage

In 50 years or so the biggest change would probably have to be gay/lesbian marriage. Fifty years is a long time and gay marriage should be approved by then.  Also by the next 50 years, I also believe that we will slowly lose cultural trends. I would predict that the changes in marriage will also depend upon the cultural value and beliefs. Most of the young people now a days just live together without getting married ever in life. There is usually like a rule and superstition and all that about living together before marriage but those beliefs has passed since kids are young and naive. The cultural values and beliefs that parents will tell their children will make a huge impact on how their generation will respond to the marriage rituals and kids just have to listen or go with what they believe but thats on them if their marriage fails. In fifty years cultural probably wouldn't matter because kids won't bring on their old traditions, they can and will probably start new ones. America is a melting pot so we will come together since the influences in all the cultures had made us be more connected.

family

When the word family comes into mind or pops up i think of family as someone that would always be there for you and someone that has been there for you since day 1. Family doesn't have to be purely biological but the biological ones are the ones you can usually always count on. I think a family is best defined as people that you can trust going both ways, respect going ways, loyalty going both ways, and commitment to one another.  There are no limitations on what a family can be. I think just as long as that person you call family is there to support you through thick and thin. Passive-congenial and conflict-habituated marriage types don't fit into my definition as a family.  Passive-congenial marriage lacks the building blocks of one another but they do protect and support but financially not emotionally.  Lastly, conflict-habituated marriage offers none of the three aspects that go with being in a 'family.' Marriage i guess makes you a family but giving up your last name for your significant other is a very big step and marriages show that kind of commitment. Family isn't as easy as one living with another for a long period of time its about the commitment, support, and love for one another.

interesting

I really enjoyed reading about the different styles of love. I enjoyed reading this section because i love like love. if that makes sense. i love "love type" movies. I just love people and hearing about their love stories, they are so cute.There are primary ones and secondary love styles. The primary styles of love are Eros, Storge and Ludus. Eros love is powerful and passionate.  Eros involves very intense feelings and sometimes causes the person to self-disclose at an early stage in the relationship. Storge, the second primary love style, which is like a "comfortable, even-keeled kind of love based on friendship and compatibility" as the books states on page 277. Love develops slowly, taking things really slowly and uses buds from similar interests, life goals and etc. Find common ground and similar things that interest both in the relationship.  Usually it isn't intense  love but imore like a growing relationship. Last style of love that is primary is ludus. Ludus is like playing a love game with commitment but like a casual relationship.

love or commitment

I have experienced only 1 relationship and we weren't quite in love yet or it didn't last that long to be called love. We were both committed though. We talked for a couple month then he made it official by asking me out and we dated for like 7 or 8 months then things didn't work out. I guess we weren't meant to be since it didn't work out but i moved on kind of.. haha. Most of my friendships with my friends have commitment involved when it comes to being there for them and hanging out with them. We all want to be good friends that are always there when we need them.  There are some friends that we will always be friends with and stick together and there are other friends that we do not care about as much because we don't see a stronger friendship bond with them later. Commitment relationships like love relationships because love relationships have commitment in them to succeed. I believe that commitment relationships are impacted  and not so sad and heart breaking as love relationships because those hurt the most. 

Deception

I do not think that it is ethical for people to represent themselves differently online to have made up information that does not represent them at all with a fake online identity. By providing false information about one-self creates a fake person that doesn't even exist. It's really sad that people do that because they probably have low self esteem or something. Some people choose to hide their true identity to look like someone way better than everyone else online to be the "cool" person. Deception is commonly found online because you can't see their facial expressions as they tell you the lies or whatever. If you were face to face with someone their facial expression and body language can give away that you are lying or hiding something. Some people are good liars but in the end they always end up getting caught because the truth always comes our or at least most of the time. 

week 11 #3

What I found interesting in this chapter was communication and friendship.  Interpersonal communication needs to be used when having good communication between friendships and making sure the communication level with listening and all that is good.  Friends need to be open minded, and understanding. They also need to use verbal and nonverbal communication effectively to be a great friend.  When you discuss your emotions and resolve conflicts they make friendship last longer instead of holding grudges and what not.  People should engage in dual perspective in friendships.  This way it will help us understand what our friends are feeling and thinking and helps accept those thoughts and emotions.  Honesty is a key factor in friendships and communication.  To have a successful friendship people have to be open and not hide their true feelings and emotions. It is really important in friendship when friends don't easily get mad off the little bickering and what not because that tends to make friendships rocky. Everyone just needs to not take everything so seriously and get mad over the little things because people aren't going to want to be your friend later and then you would be isolated and sad.... :/ 

let me tell you about my best friend

I have a few close best friends but i'm just going to talk about one. Her name is Caitlin and we met way back in elementary school but we didn't really talk or get to know each other. Then i moved elementary schools so we never got the chance to talk. In middle school we ended up going to the same school and started to actually talk to each other and get close. We would always hang out at lunch and break and we had a few classes together. She would invite me out to the movies and to eat with her family and to sleepover her house. We just built our trust, closeness and acceptance because we clicked right when we finally took the chance to talk to each other. We knew we could count on each other to vent or just have someone be there for us.The dynamics of our relationship really do correlate to the chapter. I am grateful to have had her daily in my life. I know that she is not local but whenever we have the time we will see each other and hang out an plus here family lives in sf so she comes back sometimes and then i meet up with her. She sometimes get mad when i get close to new friends because she feels like she is getting replaced but at the end of the day she will always be my best friend along with my other girls.

friendship

The main issues on this link were about friendships and and issues from chapter 10 on pressures of friendship.  The issues reflect challenges to friendship discussed in this chapter a lot. People always tend to have rough patches in a friendship and either have to get through it or move on and i guess make new friends. Some people stated on this forum that they are losing their friendships with others and they do not know how to prevent losing their friend. Both internal and external tensions are included in these situations. Many problems stated in the forms are that their friends' personality is changing which is usually how it goes once people grow up.This forum also includes advice on how to help people support their friends; this was described in chapter 10. There were different sections on topics about friendship advice forum to help those with problems.  Sexual attraction towards their friends was interesting because you always meet and get to like a friend and tend to have that sexual attraction towards the. Based off my own experiences, I believe sexual attraction cause a friendship to break because one might not have the same feeling then it gets awkward.....  Throughout high school, I hung out and made a lot of guy friends because it was easier for me and i didn't want to deal with girls and their drama. Attraction and sexual attraction always ruins a friendship, which sucks so people are better off keeping it to themselves unless they don't care for the friendship anymore or just can't be friends because it is just too hard for them.