Saturday, September 29, 2012
10 part skill
“Listening is a 10 Part Skill,” is an interesting topic to read about. It helps us on skills on how to improve the way we listen and how to use effective listening in improve our performance. What I found interesting was that as a listener even if the subject is dry and boring you have to pick out something that can fun, interesting, and exciting for you to become more involved. When you are listening it is important that you focus on the content rather than how it is being delivered because content is stronger than the delivery or it should be. Some people get too caught up in the story on how someone is speaking but completely ignores what the person is saying aka the content of their story. So in order to understand the content the listener needs to ignore the delivery and how they sound and focus on the content which is the base of their story. I thought the part about holding your thoughts until you thoroughly understand the speakers’ thoughts is really important. I have trouble with keeping my mouth shut because i tend to always butt in when people have not finished their story or their side of the problem. I should always let them finish and then we can debate about it after. It is really important to give speakers our conscious attention because we would be mad if we didn't get the same respect. As a college student or a person in general I don’t’ give my conscious attention in life because thats just me and my personality. If I did listen better and took in what is being said in class it would benefit me because all I would understand the lectures and do well on the midterms and exams. In order to do this I need to not get distracted so easily and not use my phone and put it away. By becoming a better listener will benefit the relationships I have with everyone around me. :)
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I think that's it is a really bad habit to cut people off in the middle of a sentence. First off, that is extremely rude. There are times where superiors such as your supervisor or manager will not care for what you have to say and simply speak over you, louder than you, and they know that position wise they are your head. I hate that just so much. Anyone who ever talks over me or cuts me off gets a nice taste of revenge because I do not and will never accept that type if treatment. But if, for say, it was a group discussion I would become extremely upset and perhaps will start yelling at you or simply leave the conversation entirely, this habit that you have for cutting people is more likely than not the result of poor manners.
ReplyDeleteHi, I have read your blog and totally agree with what you said. It takes a lot to become a good listener. There are a lot of skills to learn. And in the book “Listening is a 10 Part Skill” the author exposed us to a lot of those useful skills. As I read more and more I have realized what he is right. It was just me the whole time that don’t know how to be a good listener. But after what he said, it made me correct myself an became a better listener. I hope what he wrote about the skills to become a better listener helped you out greatly too!
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