Friday, October 5, 2012
fallacies
The most common fallacies discussed in this chapter are: perfectionism, obsession with shoulds, over-generalization, taking responsibility for others, helplessness, and fear of catastrophic failure. These fallacies are pretty self explanatory for the types of faults they are and doesn't need a lot of explanation for each. Usually these fallacies trigger emotions and cause or sometimes help us make decisions for possibly the wrong or right reasons. I believe in my interpersonal communication I see perfectionism and taking responsibility for others. Perfectionism is when we have unrealistically low self-concept which can cause chronic dissatisfaction with self causing low self esteem and what not. Taking responsibility for others is when you think you are responsible for others feeling. You kind of feel guilty for their responsibility just because you had a tad bit to do with it. Always just take on your own responsibility and try to help others deal with it but don't take it too personal. With my interpersonal communication I need to be able challenge these fallacies by using skills that will help my communicational skills. By using positive self-talk and using little negative self-talk it challenges these fallacies. I tend to be a negative person at times and it brings people down so i have to change that about me.
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I agree with how you see perfectionism and taking responsibility for others valuable. It is important to understand when you are feeling down, because too much low self-esteem is not so good; but since you’re able to recognize you have this fallacy, it allows you to be more aware of it and take control. As for taking responsibility for others, it is to our own advantage to not care too much of what people think, but only to a certain extent; for if we take it upon ourselves to think we are responsible for every person in our circle it can cause stress, and that can grow to be a problem—one that I have in particular. I care a lot what people think, but I need to challenge my own fallacy and take charge.
ReplyDeleteI think a lot of us have the fallacy of taking responsibility for others. You will be able to see your love ones crying or being upset so we just take the responsibility for it and feel the guilt on our own. But sometimes being able to take responsibility for others can be a good thing because it can help you control your feelings and emotions so you know when to cap it and not let it continue on to grow or extend to a point where you don’t know what to do. Taking responsibility is one of my fallacies and I have to take the initiative to stop taking the responsibility so easily for others and I hope you will too!
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