Reading through this chapter the topic which I found most interesting was in the little section that's called, "What keeps relationship together?" I haven't been in many relationships. I usually wonder how people who have been together for so long. Also, I wonder how many are still together since I'm around so many couples who seem to argue more than be happy with each other, still staying together after all the misery they put each other through. I thought it was very interesting how during MaryLund's study, people are brought together because of a commitment that allows two people to be together for long time because they invest themselves in the relationship to becomes happy or try to be. The relationship is based on love dealing with both staying committed, loyal, and understand each other. I agree with the study because I feel like many relationships have failed throughout what i have seen or heard because they do not have the will or power to keep it together and work things out. No matter how much love there is, it will still mean nothing if both person’s hearts are not completely dedicated to the relationship they have built. If people stick by and try to work things out that means they really care for you and want to be with you and if they don't you just have to let them go.
I definitely agree that commitment is the base requirement for a working relationship. I have also seen relationships fail because people simply lost their will to invest in the relationship. I have also seen it where one side is trying really hard and the other side simply doesn't care much to try with the person, which also causes the relationship to fail. People have to understand that commitment takes a lot of work and then being willing to put in the time and effort. If they are not, it's just not going to work. Simply as that. Nice post!
ReplyDeleteAfter reading your blog, I definitely agree with the fact that commitment is one of the bases for a steady long-term relationship. Of course, a successful relationship requires a lot more like: trust, understanding, and love between each other. Also, another one important component is how much of that other person would you be able to put up with or should I say if you can put up with them at all. It takes a lot to find that special one and even harder to accept each other for their goods and bads. It is philosophy that requires both understanding and working at it.
ReplyDeleteI also found that section to be really interesting. I’ve been in many relationships myself, and my last one ended up lasting three years. It’s been a year and a half since we’ve been broken up, but we keep running around in circles with our feelings. I think having commitment, loyalty, and being understanding of one another is the best recipe for a successful relationship and I admire those who are able to keep their relationships thriving after so long. Without these things, the relationship is almost destined to fail and problems will come up like jealousy and lack of trust.
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