confirming when disagreeing

 I have always found it difficult to confirm others when I disagree with them, but while reading this chapter it helped me understand confirming people or their ideas. It hard for me to listen when i don't agree with them because I usually get in a little debate if i disagree with them while they are talking.  There are three different ways confirming either people and/or their ideas.  Recognition is the concept you recognize that they exist.  Usually meaning when you disagree with someone you tend to ignore them and not acknowledge their presence by not looking at them. Acknowledgment is the way one feels known/ cared for and what others feel, think or say.  With confirming others through acknowledgment we tend to use either head nod or  paraphrasing to communicate that tells the speaker we are listening and makes the speaker feel important to listen to.  If you disagree with someone people may use acknowledgement by ignoring what the others say and start to change the subject or something.  Endorsement is the way we accept another person’s feelings and thoughts.  If you disagree with someone you usually reject the feelings they are trying to express and deny their inner emotions.  I think using and understanding the levels of confirmation will help us distinguish between confirming people and their ideas. From now on if I do find myself in a disagreement I need to confirm with them rather than disconfirm them by acknowledging they are there, recognizing their feelings and accepting their thoughts to be a better communicator and person or friend to them.